a good listener is so hard to find

Sometimes we just want someone to listen, not try to fix us.
You’re talking to someone and even if you’re just meeting them for the first time, depending on the setting, you’re feeling brave enough to share something kind of personal about yourself. Usually this personal thing is on your mind a lot, which is why you bring it up in the first place. Now, if you’re like me, it’s probably been on your mind a lot because it bothers you somehow. To the person you’re conversing with, this personal thing that is on your mind a lot is a problem you have in your life that you’re trying to resolve, but don’t know how to yet.
And their immediate reaction is to try to come up with ideas to help you get disentangled. You may already have a solution in the works. You may be working towards that already. But for some reason, they feel the need to come up with their own solutions and hope you’ll take their advice. Even if they don’t know you that well. (And I guess if you’re meeting them for the first time, they really don’t.)
Now, I don’t know about you, but when I get to this part of the conversation, I start to feel a little irritated. I’m thinking, can’t I just unload on you without you judging me and and immediately wanting to “fix” me? Sometimes part of the solution is allowing myself to get it out there, out loud and off my chest.
When I rant to someone, I start to feel better just by the simple action of releasing that negative energy into the universe to let the universe deal with it instead of my bottling it up like some black potion waiting for an unsuspecting victim.
So maybe I just want to rant. Please, please, please just be a good listener.

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